The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

“The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Humans are never completely satisfied with where they are in life; they see their own flaws more vividly and don’t consider the possibility that they may have the “greener side”.

We human as social animals they keep looking at the life of others, how their friends’ lives are shaping up; how successful their next door buddies are today and what paths they have taken. It is human nature to want what one doesn’t have. People may have this envious feeling subconsciously, not recognizing the peculiar longing that is occurring. It is hard to get rid of this feeling; to do so one would have to be completely satisfied with what they have.

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

Standing in a yard of green grass one may look down. Up close one can see the brown patches and the flaws of the section of grass. The grass further away seems greener as one cannot see the flaws from so far away. Compare this to life; one’s life may seem perfect and flawless to an outsider until it is seen in detail. Some may not know that everyone has flaws and that no earthly being is perfect.

There are people who live comfortable lifestyles but have complaints mushrooming from the baseless comparisons with their peers. You NEVER know what happens behind closed doors. We all wear facades, sometimes the happiest people are the saddest people. It depends who can “act” better than the “others”. You might think you have it rough, but sometimes others are better at hiding what REALLY happens. I feel that Facebook or any social networking site is a curse for these kinds of people; for they are always updated about what others in their network are doing and how successful they are. People themselves are successful if they try to portray their life on social networking site the way others do hiding all their frustration of the life, no matter whether their bosses make their lives a living hell, no matter if they are buried neck deep paying the EMIs for their debts, they enjoy what is left of their lives.

Life will make us meet successful people, more successful people and most successful of the lot. And I believe 99.99% of them have really worked hard to reach where they are today. I am not saying that it’s bad to learn from others and seek the way their lives are heading. But in doing so we forget how much amount of efforts they might have taken to reach their goals. How many days of midnight oils might have been burnt to achieve the success they have. Calling them lucky isn’t any justification; for luck favors only those who work hard and earn their position. It’s their hard-work which we see as sheer luck.

Enjoy your life to fullest

However, sooner or later one must realize that they are not the only one with flaws. An outwardly perfect character may be confidentially flawed. One should enjoy the little pleasures of life for these small happy moments will bring euphoria of surprises that will intoxicate the soul to high spirits and breeze out all the melancholies and never gauge your life with the success of others.

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7 thoughts on “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

  1. I’ve got to admit this was one of the reasons that I felt it necessary to escape the states. It always seemed to me that no one is truly happy. Myself included, so even going to another country could be included here. Everyplace has it’s problems, personally I decided life was to short to worry about others think. Life it meant to be lived to it’s fullest.

    • I was also one of the person who was suffering from this syndrome but now after changing my outlook…I’m feeling good, refreshed. I got more focussed towards my life and it seems happiness is coming along.

  2. I’ve come to realize (fortunately at a relatively young age) that happiness doesn’t come with having more and more, but rather with being truly grateful for what you already have. That’s not to say abandon all hope and desire for a better life, but make sure it’s a life that YOU dream of and not someone else.

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